Love is Selfish.

“But let there be spaces in your togetherness
and let the winds of the heavens dance between you. Love one another but
make not a bond of love:
let it rather be a moving sea
between
the shores of your souls.”

~ Khalil Gibran

The Problem:

“I’ve had a few good relationships but they dump me ’cause I’m boring and work all the time and don’t pay enough attention to them.”

The Solution:

“Find a partner-in-crime, a match, an equal, a queen.“

The Buddhist Notion of Love.

I'm in love with a woman I've never met.

But we do know each other. And one thing she said that I love is that

being in love is of secondary importance

she said it more poetically, though, in response to my concerns about our future hypothetical love and marriage and baby carriage

she said

I don't need to go on a lifelong romantic picnic, I have things to do. 

I loved that. I loved her for saying that. I've always thought fun was fun...for an hour or so. Then, fun is boring. You know what's always fun? Serving the greater good by doing something you're good at. Whether that's dance or teaching or politicking or working the counter at a corner store or being a nurse, or what. 

And that reminds me. The kind of love I've been brought up to look for isn't a picnic. It's a partnership, with loneliness built in.

In the Buddhist tradition, there's no...click here to read the rest.

Yours in working (and playing) to create enlightened society,

~

Waylon Lewis
editor-in-chief, host
elephantjournal.com, Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis

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